My entire life I have been surrounded by people. I have four siblings, hundreds of cousins and many friends. I am very social and I really enjoy companionship. My husband, Ben is many times forced to go on errands he would rather avoid so I can have someone else in the car. I even invite him into the room while I am reading. I like him around.
In recent years, I have gradually found that I enjoy time alone. I am so much more comfortable with me-spending time all by myself now that I am older. I use to think being alone meant I was lonely or unpopular. I don’t fear being alone anymore. I am unsure why the transition but I am going to credit it to learning to love myself. I think age and life experience have played a role in this change also.
Doing things that makes me happy lights me up inside and out. And, solitude is one of those things. I am not rejecting family or friends. I am just taking time to think deeply and disconnect from my very busy and noisy life.
Capturing time to be alone was not easy with my very active life. I started adding solitude to my “To Do List” in the form of a bubble bath or yoga. It really felt liberating to add something for me to my long list of laundry, grocery shopping, PTA meetings and all the other things I needed to accomplish before my head and pillow were able to reunite.
So it started, time for me. My love affair with solitude. At first it might have been 20-30 minutes. Then it expanded to more time for me and some times, I take an entire day. I have taken more than a couple of vacation days and not told my children. I have spent the better part of my youth, being wracked with guilt. Not this time. I am a better mom, friend, employee, wife when I take time for me. I appreciate my life more.
As I was building my “50 at 50 list”. Solitude and quiet time was included. I am planning a road trip alone and some time at the monastery for deep thought and meditation.
- Write a monthly thank you to someone who has had a big impact on my life
Give blood Spend an entire day completing random acts of kindness Grant a wish from my mom’s bucket list
- Get real with money
Say no and mean it and feel no guilt Ask for help with no guilt or delay Allow myself to be photographed more often
- Spend a weekend at the monastery
- Learn about other religions
Join my church as a member
- Lose 20 pounds
- Belly Dancing Class
- Pole Dancing Class
Body Cleanse and Detox Reflexology
- Learn to Bartend
- Learn to Grill
- Take an Improv Class
- Rock Climbing
- Hot Air Ballooning
Disc Golf Laser Tag
- Paint Ball
- Big Repairs on the house this year
Get a tattoo
- Have a reading by psychic
Go to the rodeo
- Grape Stomping–yes like the time Lucy and Ethel made wine
- Tandem biking
- Compete in an event at the State Fair
- Drive a convertible
- Work for a flower shop and deliver flowers for a day
Write a blog
- Read a new book each week
- Read all the books that my book club selects
Film Festival Music Festival Get a passport–the plan to travel out of the country begins..
- Road Trip alone…Thelma and Louise with no Louise…
- Stephen Colbert Show
Independent Bookstore Tour around the Midwest Facial Visit with a cosmetologist for a makeup makeover Join AARP Have a colonoscopy
The items that have been marked through are completed items.